Who are you?

“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You”        Dr. Seuss.

Here is a parenting tip:  Being true to yourself plants the seed of authenticity in your own children.
Are you someone who is appreciating every step of your journey? Or are you waiting for the destination? Wouldn’t it be great if today you began your journey finding joy in the smallest moment, forgiving someone, thanking someone, and truly appreciating every second of your day? Stop just for a moment today, shed what is false and become who you truly are. You are a magnificent creator of the universe. Find honor and joy in your own authenticity. There are many tools to help you find you. Start by identifying your strengths and values, take The Passion Test (read about my journey) or sign up for our parenting strategies monthly e-newsletter. Take the challenge: Who are you BEING with your life?

Watch this insightful video to look inside the distractions that get in the way of being your authentic self.

Persevere Over Your Anger

We have 70,000 thoughts per day. Do you believe all of your thoughts?  How many times a day do your thoughts make you angry? Just imagine if 99.9% of the time our thoughts are positive – that would mean we have 70 opportunities to be angry each day!  Are your child’s thoughts making him or her angry?  Anger management is the most requested topic from parents in my work with parents of teenagers.  Anger is an emotion that springs from our thoughts.    When we begin believing our thoughts, whether or not they are true, we can become angry.  Controlling anger begins by understanding your anger “trigger” and anger “cue” so that anger can be dealt with in a productive way.

Watch the legendary Eckhart Tolle share his insight on viewing anger from “the outside” of us to turn this disruptive energy into an awareness of self so we can begin controlling our thoughts into a more positive outcome.

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Disappointed dad not afraid to write children off

Recently in the news, a father gained national attention because he is displeased with his children’s accomplishments, so he lets them know, in an email, about his disappointment.  Some parents jumped on his band wagon — certainly children with so many means should be expected to contribute in a bigger way than most.  As I read this story, I couldn’t help but think of the scene from “Dead Poet’s Society” when the father said to the son:  “You’re going to Harvard, and you’re gonna be a doctor!”  The son wanted to be an actor.  I wondered if the children were encouraged to follow their heart or encouraged to follow dad’s lead.  Does father know best?

Do we encourage our children to be who we think they should be, or encourage them to be who they want to be?   After all, as parents we want the best for our children.  We see great potential; a better life, more opportunity, greater skill than we had.  Do we promote authenticity at the expense of what may appear to be a harder lifestyle or do we promote practicality in which we believe will guarantee our children a productive, abundant life?

Please comment below.  What route do you choose?