RAY AND JANAY RICE: SAVED BY THE ELEVATOR
So much can happen in six months. I have always had this philosophy. Six months from now, your life can be completely different – totally unknown – and quite unexpected. It may be good or bad, let’s say life is purposeful.
Just ask Ray and Janay Rice. It wasn’t long ago Janay was getting married to an up-and-coming NFL star. Ray had a nice $4 million salary, a promising football career, along with a Nike contract to boot. Life was on the fast track to success and happiness.
Fast forward to media showing the world what their life was like behind closed doors. All the money and prestige in the world could not make-up for what was going to happen next. A You Tube episode went viral showing a night gone wrong after a drunken evening at a casino. When the elevator doors opened, it appeared Janay was passed out and being PUSHED out by Ray. What exactly happened in the elevator was not made public, leaving a lot to the imagination. We did not know. A few months later additional footage of the episode was made available, making it clear what happened, no longer leaving anything to our imagination. Janay is knocked out by her husband’s left hook.
Ray and Janay may not realize this now, but the elevator probably saved them.
AN OPEN LETTER TO BRIDGET ANNE KELLY:
HELP US WITH OUR LEADERSHIP DEFICIT
You have been described as professional, friendly and nice; a supportive, caring mother of four children who has a just value system. So I have to ask myself:
Where did a young, beautiful, smart mother who had so much going for her lose her moral accountability?
You were on a fast track, in a position that could have potentially led to a nice position in the White House.
When and why did you lose your moral compass?
HELP FOR MISS FLORIDA: A FINAL QUESTION SOLUTION
I have to confess: I love watching the beauty pageants! The beauty! The glamour! I have been watching the pageants since I was a young girl –a TV highlight in my home. How pageants have evolved from big hair and similarity to natural beauty and diversity.
I appreciate the hard work and dedication to takes to get to the final night, as in the case last night on Miss America. One winner from each state earned a spot as a contestant vying for the crown to become the next winner: Miss America 2014.
For those who are unfamiliar with the pageants, being the winner of the night comes down to that last question written by one of the judges. Contestants hopefully displaying their composure, come up with the best insightful answer to the question in less than a minute.
It is not about a right or wrong answer, it is about showcasing the authentic you that propels you to victory. As I watch and listen to the questions, I ponder what would I say? How would I answer that question? For those who missed the show, here is a brief rundown of the topics asked to each of the final five contestants last night:
IT’S NOT ABOUT MILEY! IT’S ABOUT OUR DAUGHTERS!
Many saw the letter to Miley that went viral with hopes of inspiring her to change behavior. Once I watched her original “We Can’t Stop” music video, I was not as surprised by the performance. Miley’s display at the VMA’s was not all that different from the music video.
We are all waiting to hear what she has to say. What is Miley thinking now? She is thinking: My twitter account is up, more people have downloaded and pre-ordered my music, I guess I did great! Thanks everybody!
The danger in what we painfully watched is less about Miley and much more about our teens. We will see more tongues, more twerking, and more obscene behavior from our own children.
TEACHING ACCOUNTABILITY: HOW ANTHONY WEINER CAN INSPIRE OUR CHILDREN TO BE TRUE LEADERS
“Anthony has spent every day since [the scandal] trying to be the best dad and husband he can be,” she (Huma Abedin) says of her husband, who does all the laundry. “I’m proud to be married to him.” This is a quote from Anthony Weiner’s wife, Huma Abedin in People magazine spread last July.
The family went on record to show us that forgiveness is possible and they were ready to move forward. When I read this article almost a year ago, I was hopeful. Hopeful that someone who has the passion to be a community leader got past these indiscretions and was now ready to be a great leader.
“TODAY YOU ARE YOU, THAT IS TRUER THAN TRUE. THERE IS NO ONE ALIVE WHO IS YOUER THAN YOU.” Dr. Seuss
Being true to yourself plants the seed of authenticity in your own children.
Are you someone who is appreciating every step of your journey? Or are you waiting for the destination? Wouldn’t it be great if today you began your journey finding joy in the smallest moment, forgiving someone, thanking someone, and truly appreciating every second of your day? Stop just for a moment today, shed what is false and become who you truly are.
AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE
One of the quickest ways to happiness is thru gratitude. What are you grateful for today?
DISAPPOINTED DAD NOT AFRAID TO WRITE CHILDREN OFF
Recently in the news, a father gained national attention because he is displeased with his children’s accomplishments, so he lets them know, in an email, about his disappointment. Some parents jumped on his band wagon — certainly children with so many means should be expected to contribute in a bigger way than most.
As I read this story, I couldn’t help but think of the scene from “Dead Poet’s Society” when the father said to the son: “You’re going to Harvard, and you’re gonna be a doctor!” The son wanted to be an actor.